Its okay to not be okay.

Its okay to be sad. Its okay to cry. 
Do you hear me, it is OKAY.

Its 1:05 in the morning and I was getting ready for bed as I had a 12 hr shift that day, bright and early. As always I pray before bed, usually what I am thankful for and just my overall gratitude for life. This night I added my blog to my prayer, as it is something very important to me. I asked for guidance. 

I thought to myself how I made a great first impression when I first launched my blog so I wanted to live up to the standard but for whatever reason my motivation was already lost. I am scheduled to publish a new blog on Sunday and here I am without a clue in the world on what I’ ll be typing about. My prayer then got deep. Like deep deep you guys. I felt a huge wave of sadness overcome my body and then came the waterworks. I thought I was upset about losing the motivation I once had for my blog but turns out it was that reason plus about 4 more.

So that’s what led me to my title, “Its okay to not be okay.” 

I’m so guilty of crying behind closed doors one second and the next second I’m wiping my tears and stepping out with a smile on my face like what just happened didn’t happen. But have you ever really thought to yourself why is it that you’re hiding how you’re feeling? Is it because you’re embarrassed about what you’re going through? Do you feel like no one will get where you’re coming from? Do you believe they’ll think you’re stupid for even being sad in the first place?

I’ve learnt that when we let things build up inside that’s when we become vulnerable. It’s okay to need help. Sometimes we just need someone to hear us, not even asking for advice, just someone to listen. Let me rant to you, let me talk about whats been on my mind. Or you’d be surprised at how comforting a hug can be. Don’t be scared to ask! A tight hug from your parent/grandparent, best friend or your significant other can really do wonders. It’s almost like instant relief.

“No matter how big or small it may be, stepping up to a challenge can be daunting, especially if you’re used to keeping quiet and playing it safe. Still, it’s best to recognize facing the challenge may be the best thing to do at the time”.

Addressing issues when they happen and who they happened with is the key to your happiness. For example lets say you got into a heated argument with someone you love, someone that has holds a special place in your heart and is your go to person in any situation. You guys argued and now you two are holding a grudge, something comes up and you need them. If you would have addressed the problem you had when it happened, the faster it would have been resolved and you two could have been fine again.

Another example of why letting things build up inside is bad- imagine having a car that needs it’s breaks changed. The more you use the car without replacing the breaks the more wear and tear you’re creating (the “wear and tear” in your real life is your heart). Eventually the breaks on your car are gonna give out and you’re gonna crash. So eventually there’s only so much your heart can take before your emotions get the best of you. That’s when you’ve hit what people call “rock bottom”.

Did you understand my example? No? Its okay I barely understood it myself, it sounded good in my head tho. Anyways what I’m trying to get at is to face things as they come, don’t push it to the side, obviously you’re not okay and the more things that continue to happen to you without being properly addressed the faster you will sink and reach your rock bottom. The more you use the car without breaks the more damage you’re creating.

“It is okay to not be okay, it is not okay to not do anything about it”. – T             (I just made that up, literally just now. Its 2:03 am)

Slowly but surely I am learning how to face things as soon as they happen, and for that I am thankful. I hope after reading this blog you’ll get the courage to address issues as they come, and if you run into a lil hiccup with someone you’ll resolve it then and there. Never be afraid to ask for help if need be. Speak to someone about what you’re going through. Stop crying out for help where no one can hear you! And hey if you don’t have someone to turn too let me be your someone. I can be all ears no talk or I can be your shoulder to cry on. Whatever the need may be, anyone can count on me.

Love, T

 

20 Replies to “Its okay to not be okay.”

  1. Thanks for sharing this. There are many times where i feel so down and i think to myself, should i even feel this way? Youre right, you cant control feelings. Someone cant tell you you cant feel a certain way. So, its ok.

  2. You’re right! Sometimes, we just have to accept things as they are…and if it’s not okay, then let’s embrace it like instead of faking it too hard to fall into depression. I mean, it’s okay not to be okay…

  3. I have also asked my self that. Why do we hide our real feelings? Why do we cry behind closed doors? You are right! It is okay NOT to be okay.

  4. Loved this post! Pretending to be okay is such a burden. We pretend that we are okay in our jobs, in front of our friends and even in front of our family. But the thing is that at certain point, is not healthy to evade our emotions. I agree! It okay to not be okay. It’s okay to decompress every now and then. Awesome post!

    XO
    Candace
    http://www.thebeautybau.com

  5. this needed to be said , we live in an over false positive culture and it drives me mad to see real emotions being demonized . Sadness and anger are okay

  6. I literally loved this!!! I feel like in this generation crying is consider weak and we are taught to show the accomplishments and hide the struggles. You really can’t get one without the other which is why I love the “it’s okay to not be okay, it’s not okay to not do anything about it” IM SO PROUD OF YOU THATI!!!! Love you 😘
    Love Kayla B 🤣❤️

  7. So very, very true. It is okay to not be okay. We put so much pressure on ourselves, and at the end of the day, we are the only ones damaging us. We need to be kind – not just to others, but to ourselves.

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